The conversation with the child
Age-related developmental behavior plays an important role in the development of relationship and attachment disorders in the child as well as his psychological and physical reactions to a disturbed family situation.
Small children up to 3 years of age react particularly emotionally to tensions and changes in their environment. The child cannot mentally grasp the events. They often react with sleeping and eating disorders and with emotional instability.
Children between the ages of 3 and 5 are often in the self-centered phase and very afraid of being abandoned. When parents separate, conduct disorders, emotional lability, anxiety, guilt, and eating disorders can occur.
6- to 10-year-old children have a subjective point of view and are now able to distinguish their own perspective from that of others. At this age, feelings of guilt increase. The breakup of the family can lead to conflicts of loyalty. Separation denial, grief, depression, withdrawal, and deterioration in school performance are common reactions at this age. It is not uncommon for children to feel responsible for their parents.
The 11 to 15 year olds' own perspective can be captured and coordinated at the same time as the perspective of other people. The most common behaviors are delays in the age-appropriate detachment process, identity problems, self-esteem issues and social shame.
I speak to the child personally and treat them with respect and appreciation. Good empathy, my own experience with children and my many years of practical experience in child and youth work help me to build up good communication and a basis of trust with the child. The ability to non-verbal communication and its interpretation as well as general life experience are important elements of my successful work with the child. The correct assessment of the social environment and the complexity of family relationships help me to properly assess the child's situation.
Loving interaction with the child and structured work, and if necessary courageous intervention, are not mutually exclusive. My primary goal is to correctly assess and evaluate the child's situation and to find an optimal solution for the child and thereby support the family court appropriately in reaching a judgment. In doing so, the child must be given new, reliable relationships with life that offer him safty and security.